Saturday, March 24, 2012

What Would You Do?

I had a great day today! Got a lot of cleaning done today; but not as much as I wanted to, but still quite a bit. Then, I watched the NASCAR Nationwide Race.
While I was watching the race, I was checking emails and there was one from Circle of Moms It was a good article, some of the comments were kind of out there. But that is what this is all about; everyone is entitled to there opinions, right? Maybe I think the comments are out there because this is something I am going through right now.
So, the article is about getting divorced and should you stay together for the kids.
I am from a family of 7 kids. Our parents will celebrate their 56 wedding anniversary this year. All of us kids (except 2) have all been married & divorced. My younger sister (she's almost 41) and I have done it multiple times (she is on #4; #3 for me).
Here is my situation, I am not sure if I have mentioned this before or not. So if I have I am sorry for repeating it. Marriage #1; we had dated for 2 years before we got married. He was very abusive. I knew that before we married.
 Go ahead, ask, What the HELL was I thinking? That is for a different post. Anyway, after being married 5 years and then having Princess Daughter, I decided it was time. And we divorced. Marriage #2; We married 6 months after divorce (#1) was final. We were married for almost 10 years and 3kids. He was an alcoholic and porn addict.
Marriage #3; we have been married for 9 years (in June this year). We lived together for 14 months before we got married; we weren't going to get married because neither  one of us wanted to do that again. Now, he is a great guy, don't get me wrong. No abuse, no addictions, no adultery. He has a great job, owns his home, etc. The problem is, we were married under false pretense. I was so in love when we got married. That all changed about 5 years ago. That's where the false pretense comes in. That is when I found out he never wanted to get married, he only married me so the kids would have health insurance (ex #2 had just quit his job a week before #3 decided to get married). I have tried so hard to make it work. But during all of that I have found out more things. King Hubs always told everyone that things would be better if I didn't have kids. As the years go by and they get older things get worse. We hardly talk. We hardly have sex. He hates the kids, the kids hate him.
So, back to the article. When do you decide it is time? Do you only leave if there are the three A's (addiction, adultery, abuse)? Do you stay for the kids? Do you leave for the health of yourself?  What do you think you would do?
Hope everyone has a great rest of the weekend!
Til we meet again! Pam

Friday, March 23, 2012

Week in Review

This week has actually been pretty good!

*Monday was Princess Shaney's 13th birthday!

                                Princess Shaney (self-portrait)

 I cannot believe that my baby is 13! She likes Chuk-a-rama (a buffet restaurant), so we went there for dinner.
On the Saturday before her birthday, her dad took her and some of her friends roller-skating. So, that was her party.
Remember all those times you swore you would never be like your mother? Well, that ALL changes when you have a teenage daughter! She was getting ready to go to her friend's house the other day. She came in the kitchen to tell me goodbye; I opened my mouth to say something to her and after I did, I cringed! I opened my mouth and spoke, but that wasn't my words or my voice; it was my mother's! I had to look around before I realized it really was me that said, you are not leaving this house wearing that! Go put a different shirt on or stay home! 
*Wednesday, I went out (on our property) and did some pictures it was a lot of fun! Then I came in and downloaded them onto my computer, and every single one of them were so blurry, I deleted all of them. I couldn't figure out what the problem was. So, I took my camera all apart and cleaned everything and put it all back together.
*Thursday, I decided it was time to go play with my "baby." He his going to be 2 in June and I thought it is time to start really working with him. Since I am now home schooling Princess Shaney,  she also went out with me to play with her "baby."
                                               My baby

                                Princess Shaney's Baby (my babies mom)

So, that was the second time I had the bridle on him. He has been so good!
After I got done playing with horses yesterday, I came in and was just beat. I told King Hubs that I was going to go to town (to my weight loss place). So, I got showered and drove 30 miles, got weighed, (that sucked!), got my B12 shot and got me some yummy protein bars. I told them I was going to start coming in every week and get back on track with this. I felt so much better!
*I went out to play with the horses today. It was kind of windy (and they were kind of jumpy) so we just brushed them and then turned them back out.
When I was getting read to go outside, I grabbed my camera and looked at the lens. I figured out why my pictures were so blurry the other day, the lens had been switched to manual focus instead of  auto focus. Guess my blond is coming through.
Kings Hubs has been home from work for 4 days. He hurt his back and could hardly walk. It is always so much fun when he is home for that long, NOT!
Now the kids have all gone with their dad for the weekend, yay!

Sorry this was such a long post (I'm making up for all the days I missed, hehe).
OH, I got a new (hair) do on Monday! I am so luvin it! I will post pics of that another day. Hope you all had a great week!
Til we meet again! Pam